"Me and my friend Carly and Shelby all had a huge crush on the same boy. So we let him decide who he liked."
--Katie, 10

"This guy in my class last year and I both like each other. Of course, I told my best friend all about it. Then just from what I had told her, she started liking him! I got really mad, but I kept my feelings inside and just talked to my mom about it. My friend stopped 'liking' him after a little while and now we can laugh about it! I still feel a little of that weird feeling inside. Is that normal???"
--Bethany, 12

"Well I have liked this boy named Jeff for some months and we finally got together and now three of my supposed friends like him too. I heard that when I am not around they'll be flirty with him and I heard that at one of his basketball games one of three girls (Mary) was all over him. He didn't do anything but I heard he liked it. Then I wrote him a long letter and asked him why he did things like that and he said, 'I don't care for them, I love you and I want to be with you' and I was so happy and he kissed me. There have been no problems since I told them to go find their own man and now we are all cool."
--Nechawn, 13

"Well, the crush that I have likes me and not my friend but anyways, we are going out and my friend doesn't care. She likes him, but she likes this boy in my class and he likes her and I think they are going out."
--Ayelen, 10

"I had this cool crush on this boy in my class and he had a crush on me!!!!!!! Most of my friends had one on the same boy!!! My friends let me have him because he was hugging me and he kept on holding my hand and he kept staring at me and he kept on saying he loves me. What good friends I have!!!!"
--Cori, 9

"My best friend Brittany and I liked this guy named Michael. He was like really hot and nice. The thing is, Brittany only liked him for his looks and I liked him for everything he was. She got really mad at me when I started talking and hanging out with him. She told me, 'You always get the guys. You are so pretty, popular, nice, athletic...' I was like, 'Woman, are you trying to make me feel bad?!?' you know. So I went to Hurricane Harbor with my friend Kyle and I met a guy named John and I fell in LOVE and decided to let Brittany go for Michael. She never went with him, but the important thing is, your turn will come."
--Megan, 13

"I have a crush on this guy at my school. The problem is, my friend has a crush on the same guy. I have liked him ever since first grade and she came to my school in third. Now we are both in fourth grade and he likes her. He never knew that I liked him until fourth grade. When I found out that he liked her and she liked him, I got kind of mad at her. Then I realized that he likes her and that's something I have to deal with. You might think I should be mad at her, but I'm not. We are really good friends and we don't let him get in the way of our friendship."
--Amber, 10

"Hey! Here is my story. There is this guy named Andrew that lived down the street from me for 8 years and he moved when I was 11. He went to my church and school last year and he is a year older than me. I had a crush on him all year long! I was over at my best friend Courtney's house and we were talking to him online. So I thought 'Okay, it's now or never' and then I told him about my crush. My plan totally backfired! He said that he didn't know who I was and that he thought I was a total psycho. Courtney's best friend instinct took control at that moment and she called him up to see what he was talking about. He said he was just kidding about the whole thing but he still didn't like me. He started being really mean to Courtney and was calling us some pretty mean things. He would not stop, either. He was e-mailing me mean things and all of this other stuff. I tried to get him to just be friends with me and he won't do that either. Every time I see him he says he hates me and I don't know what I did wrong."
--Katelyn, 13

"To tell you the truth yes, but she didn't know I liked the same guy so I always admired him as a secret thing. Then she went out with him and I got kind of mad but when they broke up I was mad at him because she really liked him. Then he asked me out! What should I say to my friend that still likes him a lot??"
--Clarissa

"Me and my friend Sharon crushed on the same guy at the same time. The problem was that Sharon is a big flirt and she would always flirt w/ him, which was not cool. I had liked him for 6 yrs. but now we are both over him and have moved on."
--Mandy

"My friend and I both like this guy but we didn't know what to do because both of us thought the same thing about him. My friend thought I had a better chance with him so she just went for another guy. It's not usually that easy but when you've got true friends, life is easy."
--Kelsey, 13

"I dealt with it before. I was in the same school for 3 yrs. I had a crush on the same person so I just kept it a secret."
--Dakota, 9

"Well, I said friends are worth more than a boy and we moved on. We are still the best of friends."
--Shaye

"My friend dated a certain guy for a couple months before other girls started noticing him. He dumped her for a more 'popular' girl (typical). Eventually that girl dumped him. He had gone from 'girl to girl'. Well, that's how I put it. Now she is in the middle of trying to get over him while I, for some odd reason, started crushing on him. Now it has caused us some awkward fights because I can't deal with him the way I do with my other crushes being that my best friend likes him too and is always watching. One night I did dance with him and kiss him and she saw. We stopped talking for a week or so and recently made up. We talked about it and realized that the night after that night he was with another girl! As shocking as it could be, it wasn't that shocking and we are starting to realize that he is a 'Player' as most people would call it and pretty soon there will be no girl for him. Right now me and my friend are back to being friends and don't need to worry about him."
--Jessica, 13

"Me and my friend liked the same hottie. The thing is, he asked me out and got me a Christmas present. She got totally mad at me, but me and him finally broke up so me and my friend were cool with each other again. When we were going out, I didn't talk to him when she was around and I tried not drool over him during classes."
--Hayley, 11

"A crush lasts a moment, but friends are forever. You'll get over your crush, but if you end up going out with that person, your friend will never forgive you. I say go with the friend!!!"
--Kaitlin, 12

"Yeah, we had a crush on the same guy and so did everyone in the grade. I told her that if she ever got him I would be happy for her and I would keep my distance and make sure everyone else did too. She said that she would do the same. Then we hugged and went on with our lives."
--Sam

"One time there was this guy that lived down the street from me. I told my friends that I liked him and turns out he liked one of my best friends. He brought her flowers and won her heart. She was really sad about the whole thing but to me, my friends are way more important to me than guys. They broke up two weeks later and he found out that I had liked him. He said he was sorry and that he didn't know or he would have asked me instead! HA-HA!"
--Taylor

"I liked this boy and so did my friend so we fought over him. That was stupid because a boy comes and goes and friends stay forever. Plus, he's not a lottery ticket. We can't win him."
--Quadasia, 13

"My friend Cori and I both liked this really hot guy named Jesse over the summer. We found out that he liked me and not Cori. I was so happy because I liked him so much. It wasn't even funny. I didn't wanna go out with him because I thought she would get mad at me but she said she didn't care. I then found out what a good friend I had and I had taken her for granted. I then thought that guys will never measure up and make you as happy as best friends will."
--Natasha

"I told a friend of mine I had a crush on somebody and she told him for me. He was happy and all, but guess what happened after? He started telling people, even his ex- girlfriend! I thought that part was funny. Did I mention he likes me more?"
--Valerie, 11

"My friend and I like the same boy and we both went out with him at different times."
--Joy, 12

"I really like this boy who is in the 8th grade and this girl named Nicole likes him too. He doesn't want to go out with her. I want to tell him I like him, but I am afraid to see what he is going to say to me. He always smiles at me and looks at me. I am afraid to talk to him."
--Nicole, 12

"Me and my best friend had a crush on this one guy in our class. I had known him for about 5-6 years and my friend didn't know him all that much. She asked me if it was okay if she asked him out (to be her boyfriend) and I said it was ok. So she did and they started to date for a while. Then ppl started saying that he should leave my friend and date me. So then my friend broke up w/ him and then I asked her if she wouldn't mind if I dated him. She said no, and me and him started dating. It was all ok until one day he accused me of not trusting him and turning my back on him (which I didn't). So we got into a fight and broke it off. Then from then on we were horrible friends, I mean horrible! After we broke up we got into another fight and were about to hit each other. Thankfully our friends held us back!!! Just don't let a guy come between you and your friends, the ending isn't exactly a happily ever after one."
--Dee

"I am a girl that has heard that many people are going out quite a bit. There isn't anything wrong with that, but don't hide your feelings. I had a crush in 5th grade, but I told him how I felt and he totally felt the same way. If you are male or female, no matter what, you should always tell that special someone how you feel. At least, that's what I did and it worked. So you shouldn't ever keep your feelings to yourself. This is my advice. Try it!"
--Anneliese, 11

"Me and my friend April had a crush on the same guy. When I found out she did I was a little mad. Then we talked it over and she told me I could have him, but I said no. Then we found out he had a girlfriend all along and get this, he had a crush on me so he lied to his girlfriend and said I was just a friend. So I said BYE-BYE."
--Nicole, 11

"I didn't really care at first, then because of it she started spreading rumors about me."
--Mandy, 12

"I didn't really know this one guy very well but thought he was pretty cute. One of my best friends liked him and they ended up going out. Now that I got to know him better, I like him a lot and really wanna go out with him! So to deal with this, I am just learning that there are always other guys and they aren't going to last forever. So I am just gonna wait until they break up to do anything about this!"
--Michelle

"My friend Elissa and I both like the same guy, Mike. She doesn't know I like him but our other friend Heather does and she's trying to set them up, knowing I like him!! Elissa doesn't know though and I've got a boyfriend right now that I want to break up with, but I can't do it before Valentine's Day. BUT, Elissa also has 'bf' kind of. She has someone who REALLY likes her and she leads him on because she likes him too and she told him when her family pressure was gone, she'd go out with him. Now Mike, the guy we both like, asked her out today and she wants to say yes but she can't because of Josh (the other guy she likes). They hug before every class and everything but she's gonna all of a sudden start going out with Mike? I have a boyfriend, but not for very long, and I like Mike, too!! I heard (but this was b4 he asked out Elissa) that he liked me too so.......!!! Help me, please!"
--Jodi

"My friend Lauren and I like the same kid (Cody). He is cute, funny and not afraid to be the class clown. We never fight or anything but I am jealous because Cody likes her and not me. :() It's ok though."
--Adrina

"I don't know how to deal with it because all we do now is fight. It is messing up the friendship we had and now we don't have it because of that boy that I am going out with now. She is trying to break us up."
--Sarah, 13

"I don't know what to do! Me and my friend like the same boys. It is so confusing. I don't know what to do!!!"
--Tayler, 12

"Me and my best friend liked the same boy and some of our friends asked him out for her behind our backs. It turned out it was a disaster, but we are bff's again."
--Ali, 13

"All I did was not say anything to that guy and we were just friends. I started to like a different guy instead of liking him as much."
--Danita, 13

"It was hard because there's this really cute boy in my class and this other girl likes him and she will really fight for him. How do I tell her I like him more?"
--Stephanie, 10

"It feels really hard because my 3 very best friends told him I like him right in front of my face! They all like him too, so watch out!!!"
--Kelsey, 10

"I liked this boy and I still do and I'm about to go with him. What I did was get his number and was brave enough to tell him I liked him. Then we had a long conversation and talked about keeping our little relationship on the down low so everyone wouldn't know about it."
--Jessica, 11

"I just went on with my life because I liked another guy."
--Angela, 13

"Me and my friend had a crush on the same guy but I didn't want to say anything about it. When she told me she liked him, I was happy for her even though I liked him too. I told her how I felt and that I liked that guy too. She just said it was all cool. I wanted to get her and him to hook up so I told him she liked him. He just smiled. So then he liked her and not me. My friend wouldn't leave me hanging like that, so she told him I liked him too."
--Marybel, 12

"I have a crush on two people, Eminem and Taylor. I dealt with my crush on Taylor by telling him. He was like, oookay."
--Dawn, 11

"My b/f during the summer called my rival Candice more than he called me. I was suspicious, but just ignored it. Then he stopped calling me and broke up with me for her. Being the kinda jerk he is, she rejected him b/c she is too good for him anyhow."
--Annie

"Me and my friend Danielle both like this guy and he told everyone he didn't like her and he likes me. I told her that it hurt me to see her sad about it, but it hurts even more that I don't have a chance with him cuz she has to be around him 24/7 and I hate it! She says she doesn't want to date him and that I am free to go with him if I want, but I know she doesn't really think that! So I found the easiest way to deal with it which is to just say forget it, forget him, and try to get over it. No friend is worth losing because of a guy!"
--Lexi

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